When You Stop Abandoning Yourself, You Start Leading A Life You Love

In this soul-stirring episode, Tracey Watts Cirino unpacks what it really means to stop abandoning yourself — and how that one shift changes everything in life, business, motherhood, and leadership. Learn why self-leadership is the missing key to sustainable success and how the Aligned Women Mentorship gives you the tools and support to finally thrive on your own terms.

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Are you ready to say goodbye to fear, frustration, and overwhelm when it comes to growing and scaling your business? You’re in the right place. Welcome to  Beyond Common Business Secrets Podcast I’m your host, Tracey Watts Cirino

Transcript

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Tracey Watts Cirino: Hello! Hello! Hey there! Beautiful!

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Tracey Watts Cirino: Welcome to beyond common business secrets! I'm your host, Tracey Watts Cirino, business growth strategist, award-winning, entrepreneur, bestselling author and speaker, and someone who has both totally face planted and soared when it comes to chasing success

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Tracey Watts Cirino: without losing yourself in the process. You know what I'm talking about really going for it, really going after your dreams.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: and sometimes just completely nosediving or completely soaring

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Tracey Watts Cirino: this episode. in this episode this one is close to my heart.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: We're talking about something I've had to live through

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Tracey Watts Cirino: to fully understand. When you stop abandoning yourself.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: you finally start leading a life you love.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: Take a breath and let that land.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: When you stop abandoning yourself, you finally

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Tracey Watts Cirino: start leading a life you love

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Tracey Watts Cirino: because I don't just mean setting boundaries and doing another quote unquote round of self-care. Right? I'm talking about a radical

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Tracey Watts Cirino: reclamation of your truth, your needs, your desires, and your aligned leadership.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: In many ways we abandon ourselves.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: Let's get real real honest for a minute.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: As a woman, especially those of you running a business, raising a family.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: going after everything you really want in your career, leading teams.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: volunteering for extracurriculars, volunteering at the school meeting your obligations in your community.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: We're trained to put ourselves last we're told.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: It's noble to sacrifice to over deliver, to prove ourselves

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Tracey Watts Cirino: truly worthy by overworking and outperforming.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: to do more for others than you do for yourself.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: But, my friend, I'm here to tell you that is total. Bs, and here's the thing.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: Every time you silence your truth to make someone else feel comfortable every time you say yes.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: when your whole body is screaming. No.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: every time you shrink your voice to fit someone else's.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: quote unquote version of what's nice.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: You abandon yourself, you break your own heart, and abandoned women cannot lead.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: they cannot lead from a foundational place of truth.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: They can hustle, they can perform. They can check off goals and crash and burn, trying to do it all.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: They can totally burn out and become a dismal glimmer of the bright light

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Tracey Watts Cirino: and driving force that they once were.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: But real leadership, aligned leadership, the kind that magnetizes, uplifts and transforms.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: that begins the moment you decide it's time I come home to me.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: Leading yourself is not a luxury.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: it's not. It's a responsibility. You may have been taught that, taking time to reflect, reset, refine.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: and align with what you really want.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: what you were born to do.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: that it that it's some sort of luxury.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: But I'm here to call. No, no, this is leadership.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: This is real leadership, and the truth is, the hardest person you'll ever have to lead is yourself.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: not your team, not your partner, not even your kids.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: But you.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: That's right. It is all about you.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: because it takes courage to stop outsourcing your worth

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Tracey Watts Cirino: to stop looking for someone else, to tell you

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Tracey Watts Cirino: that you're worthy to stop looking for someone else.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: to tell you what to do.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: to stop waiting for the gold star, for something you know was wrong for you.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: but others wanted you to do it. So you're still looking around

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Tracey Watts Cirino: waiting for that gold star or that stamp of approval.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: To say, this is my life, and I'm taking the lead.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: That's the moment

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Tracey Watts Cirino: that real leadership and transformation is going to happen for you. And that's what we do. Inside the aligned woman, private mentorship and group coaching collective.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: We stop abandoning ourselves, and we start crafting a life, a career, and a business that feels like

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Tracey Watts Cirino: your truth, not what the world says is trending right now, not the perfect

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Tracey Watts Cirino: event on pinterest post. That's like this fake inauthentic life, not what the industry says you should right air quotes you should do not what your family thinks is safe.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: not what your inner critic keeps repeating from old wounds and old conditioning

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Tracey Watts Cirino: inside the aligned woman, private mentorship. We build your beautiful, wonderful life at the foundation level

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Tracey Watts Cirino: from soul aligned clarity, inner leadership, an unapologetic feminine power.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: We tap in the aligned woman way

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Tracey Watts Cirino: is very different than anything else you have ever

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Tracey Watts Cirino: tried or experienced in the aligned woman mentorship. We blend coaching, clarity, work, mindset tools, shamanic healing practices.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: success, habits, real world business strategy.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: If that's required for the life you're living and deep strategic mentorship.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: So you can reclaim your time, your energy, and your own voice.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: So you can build a business

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Tracey Watts Cirino: or career that aligns with your life, not something that completely takes over and you lose yourself.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: This is so. You can, mother and nurture from a place of joy and presence, not depletion.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: So you can make bold decisions without overthinking or second guessing, and so you can trust yourself again.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: This is for the woman who knows she is meant for more.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: but she's not going to burn down everything to get there. Take it from me, my friend.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: You don't need to do that. There is another way, and I often feel like you know. God pushed me forward to go first, st where I had to burn everything down, and

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Tracey Watts Cirino: and and sort of reprogram and restructure everything so that I could teach other women

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Tracey Watts Cirino: that there's a better way.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: So this is for the woman who knows that she's meant for more.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: But she's not going to have to burn everything down to get there. She's going to lead herself forward with grace, clarity, and unstoppable power. Whether you choose to work privately with me in one of my private one-to-one mentorship containers, or you join

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Tracey Watts Cirino: one of our group collectives. The transformation is the same.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: You stop abandoning yourself.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: That's the real victory. You reclaim your identity.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: You tap into your inner courage. You finally get to live, lead, and succeed as the real you.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: not one, not what everyone else expects from you, the real you.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: So I want to ask you.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: where have you been abandoning yourself?

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Tracey Watts Cirino: Where are you dimming your light.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: lowering your voice just to stay, liked or safe.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: What would it feel like to trust yourself

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Tracey Watts Cirino: so fully that no decision feels scary anymore?

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Tracey Watts Cirino: You don't need more information, you need transformation, and that's exactly what the aligned woman mentorship delivers enrollment

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Tracey Watts Cirino: is now open, and consider this your sacred invitation to come back home to yourself.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: and finally lead your life the way you were born to, my friend. If this is

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Tracey Watts Cirino: lighting you up and you're feeling that full body. Yes.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: I want you to head over to beyond commoncoaching.com forward, slash! Aligned woman.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: or send me a DM. On Instagram. If you would like to book a clarity call.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: I see you, I believe in you, and I can't wait to walk this aligned path with you

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Tracey Watts Cirino: until next time.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: BU.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: Stay beyond common and fiercely, fabulously, you and I will see you on the next one.

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Tracey Watts Cirino: and inside of the aligned woman mentorship. Take care.